Treatment of Sexual Difficulties & Dysfunctions

Most difficulties can be successfully resolved with

Effective & lasting short term therapy – without medications

Sexuality can be a pleasurable, satisfying, meaningful, intimate, loving part of life

Sexual Issues
  • Premature ejaculation
  • Erectile dysfunction
  • Sexual addictions
  • Performance anxiety
  • Inability to orgasm
  • Trauma – abuse – rape
  • Infidelity issues
  • Lack of desire
  • Lack of attraction
  • Herpes                           
  • Fear of intimacy or sex
  • Embarrassment or guilt
  • Unconsummated marriage
  • Painful intercourse
  • Vaginismus
  • Frigidity                                
  • Pelvic pain
  • Sexual addiction
  • Fetishes
  • Religious  issues
  • Infertility
  • Sexual identity issues
  • Same sex attraction difficulties
Additional services
Introduction to sex therapy and counseling

Introduction to sex therapy and counseling

Many sexual difficulties are caused by something in one’s thinking or emotions, or even physiological conditioning which often the patient has no conscious awareness of. Sometimes, a man or a woman could have had a bad experience as a child, teenager, or adult that interferes with normal functioning. Unfortunately, sometimes a traumatic experience happens, which may be remembered, forgotten or repressed.  A sexual difficulty or dysfunction can been caused by just one sentence that was said on a teenage date that broke a tender heart, damaged self-confidence, or caused distrust. The person who heard this sentence may then – consciously or unconsciously – make a decision to not trust or be open to possible vulnerability, or to allow natural spontaneous psycho-emotional physiological response.

Sexual dysfunction and difficulties usually come from one of two categories of sources – one physiological, the other psycho-emotional.  I have had a high rate of success in helping patients who suffer from sexual dysfunction from both categories.

Physiological Sources:

  • Medical conditions – diabetes, cancer, herpes …
  • Side effects of prescription drugs – anti-depressants, pain medication …
  • Side effects of alcohol & drug abuse…
  • Disfigurement – genetic, accident …
  • Hormonal levels
  • Aging
  • And others…

Psycho-emotional Sources:

  • Insecurity
  • Embarrassment
  • Fear of rejection
  • Fear of responsibility or commitment
  • Fear of S.T.D.’s
  • Broken heart
  • P.T.S.D.
  • A.D.D.
  • O.C.D.
  • Guilt – religious, being unfaithful …
  • After death of spouse
  • Having been cheated on
  • A negative sexual experience
  • Sexual abuse – rape, incest, etc.
  • A lack of any experience with sexuality
  • A lack of any experience of emotional intimacy
  • Certain psychiatric disorders
  • And others …

There is a third category, which is unfortunately not so uncommon.

Harmful education and indoctrination:

  • Lack of education regarding sexuality
  • Unhealthy education regarding sexuality
  • Unhealthy incorrect “religious” indoctrination
  • Negative role models at home
  • Negative role models in the school or community
  • Training to completely avoid of sexual awareness
  • And others …

Most of the time, sexual dysfunction is a result of a psychological, emotional, social, or religious issue or experience.

My approach to sex therapy is different than many psychologists, physicians and sex therapists.

My focus is on helping my patients to develop healthy relationships to sexuality; to himself or herself; and to one’s sexual partner.

Most sex therapists focus on behavioral techniques, such as sensate focus. In fact university training programs need to put the emphasis here, which is understandable since training for becoming a sex-therapist certainly cannot provide the psychological understandings and skills that a clinical and medical psychologist receives.

I do utilize behavioral and psychological techniques, especially hypnosis and self-hypnosis, because they are effective. Although sexuality has many physical components to performance, I do not relate to my patients as sex machines but rather as individuals with mind, body, heart and soul. 

Sex can be experienced in many ways. It is an expression of oneself, a means to communicate, a way of giving, receiving and sharing, of learning and understanding, and yes of making and sharing love. Sex can be hot, sweet, kind, gentle and intimate.

I promote loving, respectful enjoyable sexuality for my clients and patients.

I have found within 35 years of helping individuals and couples with sex-therapy, that most often the problem originates from either issues of relationship, or past trauma or abuse or religious, parental, or social guilt.

Sometimes the sexual dysfunction is a result of a physiological condition, as mentioned above, and sometimes it is a combination of both. Certainly medical conditions affect us psycho-emotionally.

I have helped many men, women and couples who had a variety of sexual difficulties. I work with much respect, care, sensitivity, confidentiality and professionalism. Being healthy and happy are healthy goals and blessings, as is having a beautiful and satisfying intimate relationship.

If you or someone you care about is experiencing difficulty regarding sexuality and/or intimacy – know that most often it can be easily and relatively quickly resolved.

Many people experience sexual difficulty at some point in their lives. There is no need to feel embarrassed.  Healthy sexuality is an important part of quality of life.

Take the step to heal and start enjoying healthy intimacy and sexuality

I assist men, women & couples with the following issues:

Difficulties that men may have ….

Erectile Dysfunction   –   Premature Ejaculation

Difficulties that women may have …          

Dyspareunia   – Vaginismus   –   Pelvic Pain   –   PMS

Difficulties that men & women may have …

Fear of Intimacy   –   Performance Anxiety   –   Embarrassment – Guilt

Lack of Desire   –   Lack of Attraction   –   Insecurity      

Communication Difficulties   –   Inability to orgasm   –   Infidelity        

Herpes   –   Infertility   –   Painful intercourse   – Unconsummated Marriages  

OTHER SEXUAL ISSUES

 Sexual Addictions

Masturbation, Pornography, Fetishism, Abuse & Control, Sadomasochism, Pedophilia, etc.

 Sexual Identity & Sexual Attraction

Homosexuality   –   Lesbianism   –   Same Sex Attraction

(Please see additional information regarding these issues by clicking here)

Religious Issues

Dealing with Halachic restrictions such as Niddah, masturbation, etc.

 Infertility (Organic & Psychogenic)

Organic Infertility: Behavioral & psychological preparation and support for IVF and other fertility treatments, including the use of hypnosis.

Psychogenic Infertility: Hypnosis and counseling for discovering unconscious contributors to low sperm count, disturbances in ovulation, etc.

 Overcoming Traumas which interfere with healthy sexual & Emotional Function

Traumatic sexual experiences, e.g. rape, sexual abuse

Traumatic relationship experiences, e.g. divorce, death, rejection

Preparing individuals psychologically & emotionally who have had no preparation or education regarding sexuality and intimacy

At times Individuals and engaged couples, often from certain religious or social backgrounds have never had any preparation regarding sexuality, sexual desire, sexual identity, attraction and relationship.

I help them to understand what sexuality and intimacy are about – physically, psychologically, emotionally and spiritually – with great sensitivity and appropriate modesty.

Same Sex Attraction

I offer services to individuals who are dealing with difficulties related to S.S.A. (same sex attraction)

Reasons clients work with me include:

  • Difficulties with self-acceptance
  • Difficulties fitting in and being accepted by family, friends & society
  • Difficulties related to not wanting to have S.S.A.
  • Difficulties accepting and relating to a family member or friend who has S.S.A.

I work within the guidelines of Jewish religious law (Halacha)

Feel welcome to discuss with me any questions that you may have regarding
how I can help you

DISCLAIMER:

Of course specific results cannot be guaranteed, and vary from client/patient to client/patient. Motivation and positive participation, as well as suggested homework are required of the patient. The work is a partnership between therapist and client/patient.

I want to give my patients the best treatment I can, and create the best treatment strategy for each patient. To do this, it is important for me to have the necessary information regarding their condition, medical history, and past and concurrent treatment, with other health professionals. I, therefore, request consultation with my patients’ medical doctors, when I treat them for medical or psychiatric diagnoses, or at least a copy of their medical report, so that I can offer the best services possible.              

At times hypnosis or another modality of therapy is not recommended or appropriate for a particular client/patient. Whether hypnosis or another modality is utilized in the treatment of my client/patient is determined after consultation and evaluation of the client/patient, the specific issues presented the preference of the client/patient, and the client/patient’s medical history.

Regarding hypnotherapy: Hypnotherapy and hypnosis are usually very good treatment interventions. However, hypnosis is contraindicated under certain circumstances. For example, hypnosis is usually contraindicated for individuals who suffer from severe psychiatric disorders, such as psychoses and schizophrenia.

A proper diagnosis and evaluation of each client/patient must be made before hypnosis is utilized. It is only at the request of the client/patient and at the evaluation and discretion of Dr. Sheldon that hypnosis will be utilized.

Often Dr. Sheldon consults with other physicians treating his client/patient as part of the evaluation and the creation of the proper treatment strategies, as well as to ensure that there is safety, harmony, coordination and consistency among the health professionals treating the client/patient and the treatment modalities utilized. Dr. Sheldon will also ask the client/patient to provide information regarding any medications or other drugs taken.

Regarding Testimonials and Endorsements: Of course what is written in testimonials and endorsements and professional recommendations represents the author’s experiences and opinions.

All of the above is for the well-being of the client/patient, and to make sure that all work is done with high ethical and professional standards, legally, effectively. I want to give excellent service and wants each of his clients/patients to be as successful as possible.

If you have any questions, please feel welcome to contact me.

Additional Resources

Dr. Simcha Edward Sheldon presents on Hypnosis in the Treatment of Sexual Dysfunction, at the Israel Society for Sexual Medicine (ILSSM) annual conference, December 2010, Daniel Hotel, Hertzelia, Israel.

Please note:

If your desire is to enhance sexual or emotional closeness and satisfaction, or even if the issue is something more serious – a brief short-term therapeutic intervention can have a significant effect on both you and your spouse and the quality of your relationship together.

People find that it is well worth the investment of time and resources to have a better life and marriage and increase the joy, love, partnership, and intimate friendship in your life and with your spouse

Almost all of my clients and patients see improvement within a couple of sessions. In fact I tell all of my new and prospective clients and patients that they will know within two meetings if I am the right therapist for them.

Of course specific results cannot be guaranteed, and vary from client/patient to client/patient. Motivation and positive participation, as well as suggested homework are required of the patient. The work is a partnership between therapist and client/patient.

I want to give my patients the best treatment I can, and create the best treatment strategy for each patient. To do this, it is important for me to have the necessary information regarding their condition, medical history, and past and concurrent treatment, with other health professionals. I, therefore, request consultation with my patients’ medical doctors, when I treat them for medical or psychiatric diagnoses, or at least a copy of their medical report, so that I can offer the best services possible.              

At times hypnosis or another modality of therapy is not recommended or appropriate for a particular client/patient. Whether hypnosis or another modality is utilized in the treatment of my client/patient is determined after consultation and evaluation of the client/patient, the specific issues presented the preference of the client/patient, and the client/patient’s medical history.

Regarding hypnotherapy: Hypnotherapy and hypnosis are usually very good treatment interventions. However, hypnosis is contraindicated under certain circumstances. For example, hypnosis is usually contraindicated for individuals who suffer from severe psychiatric disorders, such as psychoses and schizophrenia.

A proper diagnosis and evaluation of each client/patient must be made before hypnosis is utilized. It is only at the request of the client/patient and at the evaluation and discretion of Dr. Sheldon that hypnosis will be utilized.

Often Dr. Sheldon consults with other physicians treating his client/patient as part of the evaluation and the creation of the proper treatment strategies, as well as to ensure that there is safety, harmony, coordination and consistency among the health professionals treating the client/patient and the treatment modalities utilized. Dr. Sheldon will also ask the client/patient to provide information regarding any medications or other drugs taken.

Regarding Testimonials and Endorsements: Of course what is written in testimonials and endorsements and professional recommendations represents the author’s experiences and opinions.

All of the above is for the well-being of the client/patient, and to make sure that all work is done with high ethical and professional standards, legally, effectively. I want to give excellent service and wants each of his clients/patients to be as successful as possible.

If you have any questions, please feel welcome to contact me.