Dating & Relationship Coaching

Coaching, assistance, counseling and psychotherapy to help singles
Date healthfully, confidently and effectively

I help singles with:
  • Active listening
  • Anxiety
  • Control issues
  • Caring about others
  • Cooperation & partnership
  • Cultural differences
  • Depression
  • Developing good habits
  • Developing vision & goals
  • Effective communication
  • Embarrassment
  • Enhancing motivation
  • Expectations (realistic)
  • Fear of commitment
  • Fear of failure
  • Fear of intimacy
  • Fear of marriage
  • Fear of starting a family
  • Financial issues
  • Friendship
  • Getting over past relationships
  • Giving
  • Goals & expectations
  • Health issues
  • How to disagree
  • Immaturity
  • Knowing what you don’t want
  • Knowing what you want
  • Logistics
  • Love
  • Performance anxiety
  • Psychological difficulties
  • Receiving from others
  • Relating with dates friends/family
  • Relationships & friends
  • Religious issues
  • Respect for others
  • Responsibility
  • Self confidence
  • Self esteem
  • Setting limits
  • Sexuality
  • Social skills
  • Timing & pacing of relationships
  • Trauma healing
  • Trust
  • Values clarification
  • Wants & needs
Introduction

Many singles – of a variety of ages –  as well as divorcees, widows and widowers experience frustration and failure at dating and/or being able to decide and make a commitment to a person for a long-lasting loving relationship (e.g. marriage). Some date for years and never seem to be able to “find the right person” or even connect.

Quite a number of singles are literally petrified at the idea of going out on a date. Some have little or no social skills, or are awkward, or have experienced a lifetime of rejection and heart-ache, or just one traumatic experience that caused fear and avoidance. They are afraid, nervous and uncomfortable about the idea of even going out on a date.

Lots of young – and not so young – adults have been on the dating circuit, have gone to conferences, single get-a-ways, etc. for years – and simply do not get anywhere in the achievement of their dating goals.

Many singles find dating boring, depressing, laborious or embarrassing.

My Approach to Helping Singles Successfully Date

I have many years professional experience working with singles from a wide variety of different ethnic, religious, political, geographic, cultural backgrounds.

My goal is to help facilitate and increase self-esteem, healthy functioning, general happiness, life satisfaction and meaningfulness for the individual client and for the couple.

I use Positive Psychology, as well as other coaching and therapeutic approaches and tools to help singles become who they would like to be as a partner within a relationship.

My interventions are focused, clear, positive, interactive and caring. I provide the understanding and teach the skills needed  to solve problems and achieve goals.

Much of the dating assistance that I provide is more along the lines of life coaching and guidance. However, often a person needs more. In those cases I am qualified and experienced in helping individuals resolve psycho-emotional, social, and behavioral difficulties. (Please see my psychotherapy page.)

Although sometimes, all that is needed is just a little coaching now and then to keep things on track and make minor adjustments or solve smaller current concerns, when there is a deep painful problem I prefer to offer intensive short-term treatment in order to get the job done effectively and efficiently. It is not a good idea to prolong the agony and experiences of failure, through long term therapy. The sooner my client can experience positive successful experiences…the better.

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My qualifications, training & experience

For more than 35 years I have been helping singles and couples have more successful, satisfying, meaningful and happy relationships.

I received his license as a Marriage, Family & Child Therapist in 1981 from the Board of Behavioral Science Examiners, California. I am also licensed as a Supervisor and was the director and senior clinical supervisor of a training & internship program for  therapists.

I is also trained and certified in Pre-marital and marital counseling and enhancement by Prepare-Enrich.

Additional information on each topic will be available
as the website is being developed

Please feel welcome to call me if you have any questions regarding how I work, and
how I would approach helping you achieve your goals.

DISCLAIMER:

Of course specific results cannot be guaranteed, and vary from client/patient to client/patient. Motivation and positive participation, as well as suggested homework are required of the patient. The work is a partnership between therapist and client/patient.

I want to give my patients the best treatment I can, and create the best treatment strategy for each patient. To do this, it is important for me to have the necessary information regarding their condition, medical history, and past and concurrent treatment, with other health professionals. I, therefore, request consultation with my patients’ medical doctors, when I treat them for medical or psychiatric diagnoses, or at least a copy of their medical report, so that I can offer the best services possible.              

At times hypnosis or another modality of therapy is not recommended or appropriate for a particular client/patient. Whether hypnosis or another modality is utilized in the treatment of my client/patient is determined after consultation and evaluation of the client/patient, the specific issues presented the preference of the client/patient, and the client/patient’s medical history.

Regarding hypnotherapy: Hypnotherapy and hypnosis are usually very good treatment interventions. However, hypnosis is contraindicated under certain circumstances. For example, hypnosis is usually contraindicated for individuals who suffer from severe psychiatric disorders, such as psychoses and schizophrenia.

A proper diagnosis and evaluation of each client/patient must be made before hypnosis is utilized. It is only at the request of the client/patient and at the evaluation and discretion of Dr. Sheldon that hypnosis will be utilized.

Often Dr. Sheldon consults with other physicians treating his client/patient as part of the evaluation and the creation of the proper treatment strategies, as well as to ensure that there is safety, harmony, coordination and consistency among the health professionals treating the client/patient and the treatment modalities utilized. Dr. Sheldon will also ask the client/patient to provide information regarding any medications or other drugs taken.

Regarding Testimonials and Endorsements: Of course what is written in testimonials and endorsements and professional recommendations represents the author’s experiences and opinions.

All of the above is for the well-being of the client/patient, and to make sure that all work is done with high ethical and professional standards, legally, effectively. I want to give excellent service and wants each of his clients/patients to be as successful as possible.

If you have any questions, please feel welcome to contact me.

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Almost all of my clients and patients see improvement within a couple of sessions. In fact I tell all of my new and prospective clients and patients that they will know within two meetings if I am the right therapist for them.

Of course specific results cannot be guaranteed, and vary from client/patient to client/patient. Motivation and positive participation, as well as suggested homework are required of the patient. The work is a partnership between therapist and client/patient.

I want to give my patients the best treatment I can, and create the best treatment strategy for each patient. To do this, it is important for me to have the necessary information regarding their condition, medical history, and past and concurrent treatment, with other health professionals. I, therefore, request consultation with my patients’ medical doctors, when I treat them for medical or psychiatric diagnoses, or at least a copy of their medical report, so that I can offer the best services possible.              

At times hypnosis or another modality of therapy is not recommended or appropriate for a particular client/patient. Whether hypnosis or another modality is utilized in the treatment of my client/patient is determined after consultation and evaluation of the client/patient, the specific issues presented the preference of the client/patient, and the client/patient’s medical history.

Regarding hypnotherapy: Hypnotherapy and hypnosis are usually very good treatment interventions. However, hypnosis is contraindicated under certain circumstances. For example, hypnosis is usually contraindicated for individuals who suffer from severe psychiatric disorders, such as psychoses and schizophrenia.

A proper diagnosis and evaluation of each client/patient must be made before hypnosis is utilized. It is only at the request of the client/patient and at the evaluation and discretion of Dr. Sheldon that hypnosis will be utilized.

Often Dr. Sheldon consults with other physicians treating his client/patient as part of the evaluation and the creation of the proper treatment strategies, as well as to ensure that there is safety, harmony, coordination and consistency among the health professionals treating the client/patient and the treatment modalities utilized. Dr. Sheldon will also ask the client/patient to provide information regarding any medications or other drugs taken.

Regarding Testimonials and Endorsements: Of course what is written in testimonials and endorsements and professional recommendations represents the author’s experiences and opinions.

All of the above is for the well-being of the client/patient, and to make sure that all work is done with high ethical and professional standards, legally, effectively. I want to give excellent service and wants each of his clients/patients to be as successful as possible.

If you have any questions, please feel welcome to contact me.