Children & Teens Counseling & Therapy

Solving problems & acquiring skills
Without getting stuck in negative patterns & destructive labels

Children & Teens Issues
  • Anxiety & depression
  • Behavior problems
  • Worry & fears
  • Nightmares
  • Trauma & abuse
  • Learning difficulties
  • School difficulties
  • Poor communication
  • Low motivation
  • Low self-confidence
  • Poor social skills
  • Low self esteem
  • Smoking, alcohol, drugs
  • Addictions
  • Pornography
  • A.D.D., A.D.H.D. & O.D.D.
  • Obsessive compulsive
  • Asperger’s
  • Acting out
  • Rebelliousness & anger
  • Coping with illness
  • Coping with disability
  • Bereavement
  • Enuresis
  • Encopresis  
Family Issues
  • Communication difficulties
  • Parenting difficulties
  • Authority issues
  • Values & expectations conflicts
  • Parent-child conflicts
  • Sibling conflicts & bullying
  • Marital strife
  • Lack of family unity
  • Blended family difficulties
  • Divorce & separation difficulties
  • Mental health problems
  • Emotional difficulties
  • Depression
  • Anxiety & panic disorders
  • Illness & chronic illness
  • Substance abuse
  • Alcoholism
  • Addiction – internet, devices
  • Pornography
  • Financial issues
  • Grief & loss
  • Academic concerns
  • P.T.S.D.
  • LGBTQ issues
  • Emotional abuse
  • Physical abuse
  • Sexual abuse
  • Frustration
  • Anger & rage
  • Religious conflicts
  • Aliyah difficulties
Introduction

I have been working with children and teens since 1973, when I started my teaching career. Since then I have worked in many professional capacities helping children to grow and be successful in life, including Licensed Marriage, Family and Child Therapist and Supervisor, Clinical Psychologist, and more. (Please refer to my C.V. for a complete list of my licenses and professional experience).

 Children and teens usually feel quite comfortable working with me. I work with children and teens in a personable, caring, sensitive, eye-to-eye, informal yet professional manner (as I do with adults). I utilize a Positive Psychology, Humanistic, practical problem solving approach to treat disorders and to help my clients achieve their goals. In addition, being a musician and composer I am able to offer music (and art) therapy.

My treatment approach helps increase self-esteem, healthy functioning, general happiness, and life satisfaction for the child or teen, as well as for the parents, siblings and family as a whole.

My interventions are focused, clear, positive, interactive and caring. I help my clients to acquire the understanding and skills needed to solve problems and achieve goals. I do my best to provide interventions that are brief, effective, and lasting.

Depending upon what is most helpful and appropriate and desirable for my clients, I may work either with: an individual parent, both parents, with one or more children with or without their parents, with the whole family, or any combination of the above.

I recommend, when possible, for the parents to receive my help in how to help their child (children). My reasons include:

  1. This is a more natural approach to family functioning
  2. It is better for the child not to have to deal with any potential negative feelings or experiences, such as, there is something wrong with me, I am sick, my friends or siblings will make fun of me, embarrassment, shame, guilt, etc.
  3. It is good for parents to be as effective, helpful and healing with their children as possible.

 However, at times the best thing for a child or children is to be seen by a professional. In such circumstances I am qualified and happy to work with the child.

Reasons for working with the child can include:

  1. The child does not feel comfortable speaking honestly about the issues with his/her parent(s).
  2. The parents find it too difficult or emotionally painful to deal with the issues with their child.
  3. The parents act inappropriately with the child, and it is best for the child not to  wait until the parent receives help in learning how to appropriately interact with his/her child.

 In such instances I will meet first with the parents alone to get the parents’ description of the situation, as well as their thoughts, feelings, concerns, and goals. After meeting with the parents I will meet with the child (children). Sometimes for the first session or two the parents will accompany their children in the session, if the children are young and would feel more comfortable with their parent(s) present. During the ongoing treatment I will work with the parents and the children individually and together.

 I help parents and children learn to express their thoughts, feelings, needs, expectations, disappointments, love, anger, frustration, etc. in positive constructive healthy ways. I help the family to clear away the negativity, stop dysfunctional behaviors, and increase positive, healthy, loving, respectful, and enjoyable behaviors.

When I work with teens, I usually see the teen alone. teens tend to be, or at least want to be, independent from their parents, and often would prefer working with a therapist or counselor, than finding solutions by speaking with their parents about their psychological, emotional, and social difficulties. Teens often feel uncomfortable talking with their parents about the difficulties they have. Dating, sex, and identity issues are examples of topics that most teens do not want to speak about with their parents.

When appropriate, I work with the parents as well to help them in creating family communication and dynamics which are supportive of my work with their teen child.

Sometimes, I work with the family in my office or in their home. When appropriate I consult with the child’s teacher, school, youth leader and others involved in the child’s education and development. 

Often children “act out” because of conflict or special difficulties, such as marital conflict, which are being experienced by other family members. At times marriage counseling and/or family counseling is an important part of the process.

Oftentimes my helping the parents to improve parenting skills can alleviate the problems of their child or teen.

We live in challenging times, and the most loving, caring, and well-motivated parents experience difficulties in raising their children – YES even in “the best of families.” All parents, whether married, divorced, single or widowed, get along great with each other, or do not get along well with each other face difficult challenges when it comes to parenting.

Families who are dealing with difficulties related to step-parents, step-children, divorce, trauma, poor health, loss, illness, or other psychological issues face even more difficulties – for the parents and their children.

Parenting advice & guidance can really help improve the family dynamics and happiness

Often, just a little practical guidance, and the learning and utilization of specific effective parenting skills can greatly reduce the anxiety and frustration for both the parent(s) and the children, and increase individual and family harmony and satisfaction.

Good parenting increases self-esteem, healthy functioning, general happiness, and life satisfaction for both parents and children.

Feel welcome to call me to ask any questions that you may have and to learn how I can help you and your family.

Helping children and teens has been one of the focuses of my work for more than thirty-five years.

I started my teaching career in 1973 and I have been helping children in a number of different capacities ever since.

School teacher, school counselor, school psychologist, educational consultant, trainer of educators, and executive director of an elementary school.

My teaching positions included elementary school, middle school, high school, college, graduate school, adult education, continuing education for health professionals, and Jewish educations for schools, synagogues and community centers.

Lecturer and workshop facilitator on topics of education and psychology (I have lectured on education for many years for such organizations as C.A.J.E. (Coalition for the Advancement of Jewish Education)

Licensed Marriage, Family & Child Therapist and Hypnotherapist since 1981 (California), and licensed as a supervisor and trainer of interns and therapists

Senior Supervisor of the Westside Counseling Center, in Santa Monica, California from 1984 – 1988, and was a supervisor for interns at a number of Universities

Scholar-In-Residence for the European Union of Jewish Students (1992)

Fellow of the Lookstein Senior Educators Program, Bar-Ilan (2000-2001).

Trained teachers and principals for the Israel Department of Education

Licensed Clinical and Medical Psychologist and Hypnotherapist (In Israel) since 2005.

Certified Family Therapist by the Israeli Society for Family therapy (2005).

For a detailed description of my training and professional experience, read my Curriculum Vitae (C.V.) 

Please feel welcome to read the many endorsements from my colleagues and universities.

DISCLAIMER:

Of course specific results cannot be guaranteed, and vary from client/patient to client/patient. Motivation and positive participation, as well as suggested homework are required of the patient. The work is a partnership between therapist and client/patient.

I want to give my patients the best treatment I can, and create the best treatment strategy for each patient. To do this, it is important for me to have the necessary information regarding their condition, medical history, and past and concurrent treatment, with other health professionals. I, therefore, request consultation with my patients’ medical doctors, when I treat them for medical or psychiatric diagnoses, or at least a copy of their medical report, so that I can offer the best services possible.              

At times hypnosis or another modality of therapy is not recommended or appropriate for a particular client/patient. Whether hypnosis or another modality is utilized in the treatment of my client/patient is determined after consultation and evaluation of the client/patient, the specific issues presented the preference of the client/patient, and the client/patient’s medical history.

Regarding hypnotherapy: Hypnotherapy and hypnosis are usually very good treatment interventions. However, hypnosis is contraindicated under certain circumstances. For example, hypnosis is usually contraindicated for individuals who suffer from severe psychiatric disorders, such as psychoses and schizophrenia.

A proper diagnosis and evaluation of each client/patient must be made before hypnosis is utilized. It is only at the request of the client/patient and at the evaluation and discretion of Dr. Sheldon that hypnosis will be utilized.

Often Dr. Sheldon consults with other physicians treating his client/patient as part of the evaluation and the creation of the proper treatment strategies, as well as to ensure that there is safety, harmony, coordination and consistency among the health professionals treating the client/patient and the treatment modalities utilized. Dr. Sheldon will also ask the client/patient to provide information regarding any medications or other drugs taken.

Regarding Testimonials and Endorsements: Of course what is written in testimonials and endorsements and professional recommendations represents the author’s experiences and opinions.

All of the above is for the well-being of the client/patient, and to make sure that all work is done with high ethical and professional standards, legally, effectively. I want to give excellent service and wants each of his clients/patients to be as successful as possible.

If you have any questions, please feel welcome to contact me.

I Help Children & Teens to Acquire Skills
  • Effective communication
  • Teaching values
  • Responsibility
  • Self esteem
  • Self confidence
  • Respect for others
  • Caring about others
  • Friendship
  • Love
  • Developing good habits
  • Developing vision & goals
  • Active listening
  • Goals & expectations
  • Social skills
  • Enhancing motivation
  • Setting limits
  • Relationships & friends
  • Dating & sexuality
  • Relating with siblings
  • Behavior modification
  • Cooperation
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Almost all of my clients and patients see improvement within a couple of sessions. In fact I tell all of my new and prospective clients and patients that they will know within two meetings if I am the right therapist for them.

Of course specific results cannot be guaranteed, and vary from client/patient to client/patient. Motivation and positive participation, as well as suggested homework are required of the patient. The work is a partnership between therapist and client/patient.

I want to give my patients the best treatment I can, and create the best treatment strategy for each patient. To do this, it is important for me to have the necessary information regarding their condition, medical history, and past and concurrent treatment, with other health professionals. I, therefore, request consultation with my patients’ medical doctors, when I treat them for medical or psychiatric diagnoses, or at least a copy of their medical report, so that I can offer the best services possible.              

At times hypnosis or another modality of therapy is not recommended or appropriate for a particular client/patient. Whether hypnosis or another modality is utilized in the treatment of my client/patient is determined after consultation and evaluation of the client/patient, the specific issues presented the preference of the client/patient, and the client/patient’s medical history.

Regarding hypnotherapy: Hypnotherapy and hypnosis are usually very good treatment interventions. However, hypnosis is contraindicated under certain circumstances. For example, hypnosis is usually contraindicated for individuals who suffer from severe psychiatric disorders, such as psychoses and schizophrenia.

A proper diagnosis and evaluation of each client/patient must be made before hypnosis is utilized. It is only at the request of the client/patient and at the evaluation and discretion of Dr. Sheldon that hypnosis will be utilized.

Often Dr. Sheldon consults with other physicians treating his client/patient as part of the evaluation and the creation of the proper treatment strategies, as well as to ensure that there is safety, harmony, coordination and consistency among the health professionals treating the client/patient and the treatment modalities utilized. Dr. Sheldon will also ask the client/patient to provide information regarding any medications or other drugs taken.

Regarding Testimonials and Endorsements: Of course what is written in testimonials and endorsements and professional recommendations represents the author’s experiences and opinions.

All of the above is for the well-being of the client/patient, and to make sure that all work is done with high ethical and professional standards, legally, effectively. I want to give excellent service and wants each of his clients/patients to be as successful as possible.

If you have any questions, please feel welcome to contact me.